I've been struggling with some laziness lately and to compensate I have made a ridiculous list of things I want to accomplish this week. I often ask Lee to help out, but for whatever reasons in how my crazy mind works I've spent a lot of time over thinking when I can get certain chores done this week and how Lee can help and maybe I should just do it all myself...
So this morning as we were getting ready for work I asked Lee if he could dust tonight and maybe something else, I hadn't decided, so much to do... And then -- this might not seem like much, but it meant a lot to my dorky OCD heart -- he told me, "Can you just tell me everything you want to me to do now because when additional tasks are hypothetically looming, I'm less likely to start on them." Then he incorporated an amusing analogy about needing to know how much the check needed to be made out for because once it was written he didn't appreciate requests for additional cash withdrawls. I could ask for any amount, but I needed to decide on an amount and ask. Which is totally fine with me.
Over the course of our relationship, one of the central frustrations has been me struggling to delegate yet getting grumpy that I do it all myself. And once I delegate, I micro-manage and don't understand why things aren't being done right now. (What do you mean Warhammer doesn't have a pause button?!) But lately we've really hit our chore groove and Lee has been sharing important insights, like how of all the kitchen tasks he least hates unloading the dishwasher (Oops, I forgot to add that to this evening's list. Hmm...) and he prefers a task list up front as opposed to me perpetually tagging on random things.
So tonight Lee will dust, vacuum and hopefully unload the dishwasher, leaving me plenty of time to go to the grocery, make dinner (tortellini, EVOO, garlic, parm -- both easy and delicious), laundry, and clean the bathroom. I feel so much better about my to-do list now!
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I need to clean the house today as well. Wish I had somebody to give a list to. Boo for having to to everything alone.
The gamer and I used to fight often because of his lack of ability to realize what chores needed to be done. If I noticed something that needed to be picked up, I'd do it - but the gamer could walk by said item for days, as it didn't bother him a bit. He also hated me nagging, getting upset about my huge chore list and then yelling at him all the things I wanted done. Now he LOVES a to-do list and as long as it's on there he gets it done..even if it is in his own time and way! :-P
You should have "Lee Rocks" T-shirts made.
Cheers,
Brian
Heather - I was so proud of Lee one day because he walked by the washer right as it quit so he just opened it and went to put it in the dryer. I was amazed! Of course, I had to stop him because it was delicates and most of those line dry and I know which is which by memory and Lee would have to read all the tags, but I was so excited that he tried!
Brian - T-shirts would be an awesome idea!
Ahh.. chores! Good luck with those (:
I'd buy a t-shirt. Anything to support awesomeness!
Haha...thanks Lance!
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